time heals some wounds.

i have in mind a couple of posts tonight but i will get to them as i feel like writing each one or when i find the time. 

met up with a very good friend today, at bar bar black sheep. we entered by the backdoor and the waiter asked if we would like to sit indoors or outdoors. we were so indecisive. we chose indoors in the end. they have an extensive menu (as tanya calls it, i happened to hear expensive when she said it, but she meant extensive). we placed our orders and started to catch up. 

i had not properly caught up with him over the past semester of being away i'm terrible at maintaining my friendships when im away i need to admit that, and the last time we met, i had not fully resolved within myself certain issues that affected us being friends but i did not realise it. only upon seeing him did i realise that things had not completely smoothen over. it wasn't the most enjoyable dinner when we met over winter break, and i was battling with a lot of bitterness, that made it hard to have genuine conversations. i basically just got through the dinner, attempting to be as cordial as i could be. i remember going home with a pit in my stomach.

we talked about what we had been up to over the past couple of months and recent happenings. and it was really nice to be able to encourage each other in our faith and see that we were both growing in Him, since the last time we met. it was i think inevitable that we started to approach the issue that had caused us to stop being friends for a period of time almost two years ago. finally being able to talk about it face to face without any bad feelings, and just honestly and genuinely addressing what had happened. and to hear from each other was liberating. there are some things that just need to be voiced and heard, for restoration to take place. but i think more than that, it was really time. this was one of those time things. one of those situations that nothing but time could solve. and i've come to believe that perhaps, time does heal some wounds. i wouldn't go all out and say all, but some definitely. and this was one of them. i didn't think so two years ago, a year ago, no, it just didn't feel like we would ever reach a point of being the friends we were again, and i felt at certain points, that perhaps it was time to give up trying to be friends at all. but you just know when a friendship is worth fighting for, and you don't stop fighting until the battle is won. 

i am immensely thankful to have our friendship back. it makes the two years almost worth it.